what if attachment styles aren’t personality traits
but outcomes

not fixed, just stable

like an equilibrium no one chose
but everyone keeps reinforcing

anxious types overinvest
avoidant types underprovide
and somehow it balances just enough
to keep going

no one’s satisfied
but no one leaves either

because leaving would mean uncertainty
and staying, even in something inefficient,
feels predictable

so it persists

not because it works
but because it’s stable